My Heartsongs

My Heartsongs Podcast #138 Authenticity Rocks

#138 Authenticity Rocks! How do we define this for ourselves? What does it mean to be authentic in today’s world? For me there are four essentials: I walk my talk and live congruent with deeply held values. I tell the truth to myself and others. What truth do I hide from myself that, if revealed, I’d be freer? I have developed some degree of emotional fluency, expressing my feelings to myself and others in ways that are not destructive. Finally, I maintain healthy boundaries with my yes, my no and my maybe.  

My Heartsongs Podcast #137 Where Is My Attention?

In my humble opinion, the quality of attention is one of our brain’s greatest assets. Creative imagination, empathic reading of other’s emotional states and problem solving are three of my other favorites— and each of these requires the skillful use of attention. Knowing if it is distracted, divided, dispersed or disrupted can be helpful. I offer a simple practice WAKE, that exercises the focus of our attention and creates connectedness.

 

My Heartsongs Podcast #136 I Appreciate Various Traditions

#136 Thanatopia Part Eight: I Appreciate Various Traditions. The final skill described in Thanatopia: Conscious Aging & A Good Death. I present musings on Dealing with the body, Appreciating ancestors, Afterlife and Ritual Celebrations. Happy Mother’s Day. My mom died 49 years ago while I was in medical school. I still remember how “off” she looked in the coffin, not at all like her. I can also feel the upset in my body recalling the Catholic priest who came in to say prayers, and consistently mis-pronounced her name as he droned on and on. I wish I had the awareness expressed in this podcast back then.  

 

My Heartsongs podcast #135 Thanatopia Part Seven

#135 Thanatopia Part Seven: I Understand The Dying Process. I present the sixth skill described in Thanatopia: Conscious Aging & A Good Death. Besides delineating the benefits of hospice, topics covered in the evolving manuscript include: making death less scary, visualizing a good death, harsh realities, the right to die, and the arrivederci of being with others through the process.

 

My Heartsongs podcast #134 Thanatopia Part Six:I Prepare For A Good Death

#134 Thanatopia Part Six: I Prepare For A Good Death. I present the fifth of the six skills described in Thanatopia: Conscious Aging & A Good Death. The broader perspective that aging offers can be uplifting. As part of preparing for a good death, besides the notion of keeping my own death front and center for some daily contemplation, we’ll explore together our relationship to physical pain, how to practice shadow dancing, fashion a legacy, and embrace the healing that has a hundred forms.

My Heartsongs podcast #133 Thanatopia Part Five I Assist Others On The Path

#133 Thanatopia Part Five: I Assist Others On The Path I present the fourth of the six skills described in Thanatopia: Conscious Aging & A Good Death. How to really be there – and still keep a healthy boundary – when caring for aging or dying parents, partners, relatives and friends.

My Heartsongs Podcast #132 Thanatopia Part Four I Adjust & Adapt

#132 Thanatopia Part Four: I Adjust & Adapt. I present the third of the six skills described in Thanatopia: Conscious Aging & A Good Death. How might I embrace the changes, be in no resistance to the inevitable decline? There are eight key elements that invite me to adjust and adapt as part of conscious aging: sleep, exercise, stress, humor, play, connect, shed & simplify, driving diapers & other dilemmas.

My Heartsongs Podcast #131 Thanatopia Part Three I Mourn

I Mourn: the second of the six skills examined in my forthcoming book, Thanatopia: Conscious Aging & A Good Death. The flow of grief, special circumstances including sudden death, suicide, loss of a child, death of a pet, and the role of self-forgiveness as part of the grieving process.

My Heartsongs Podcast #130 Thanatopia Part Two: I Surrender

Thanatopia Part Two: I Surrender. In this episode I share from my work in progress, Thanatopia: Conscious Aging & A Good Death, and invite any feedback you’d like to share. The ability to surrender is one of six aspects explored in the book. It involves the skills of letting go, feeling everything and embracing acceptance.

My Heartsongs Podcast #129 Welcome To Thanatopia

My sense is that people are interested in aging and dying with clearer intent, and I might have something to contribute to that conversation. I offer an excerpt from my work in progress, Thanatopia: Conscious Aging & A Good Death, and invite any feedback you’d like to share.